Best?

For all those swingers out there who are reading this, I'd love to know which is best: before, during or after?

Do you find the anticipation of a night's fun is more entertaining the night itself? Is planning, discussing and fantasising about the event more fulfilling than the majority of incidents?

Or is the experience itself the sole source of excitement?

Or do you get off on the thrill of getting back together with your partner at the end of the evening when you share your memories and relive the experience?

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